Once the stage is set … then let things unfold as they may.
It’s all about allowing others to be heard.
I only tried to control my own personal space. The bench was my space. The bench was my office. The bench was where I did my work.
I’d invite people in, make them feel welcome, but never relinquished control of my space. The bench was mine.
After that, it was all improv. Every person/situation was different. I respected each person’s differences. I’d try to interact with each individual in a way that was special/unique to them.
Occasionally, I’d stumble into gold (i.e. a new story, joke, or so forth). I’d then practice, refine, practice, refine, practice, refine … eventually, it would become pretty close to perfect. Second nature. Part of my repertoire.
I recommend that you continuously think on your feet … or in my case – on my buttocks.
Once the stage was set, I’d simply let things unfold as they were meant to happen.
Are you in control of your space?
Are you allowing others to be heard?
Are you letting things unfold as they may?